1 for every grievance someone is responsible, for every debt there is a debtor (idiom)
2 when settling disputes one should not involve third parties
反客为主
fǎn kè wéi zhǔ
1 lit. the guest acts as host (idiom); fig. to turn from passive to active behavior
名花有主
míng huā yǒu zhǔ
1 the girl is already taken (idiom)
吴下阿蒙
Wú xià ā Méng
1 General Lü Meng 呂蒙|吕蒙 of the southern state of Wu (idiom); model of self-improvement by diligent study (from unlettered soldier to top strategist of Wu)
喧宾夺主
xuān bīn duó zhǔ
1 lit. the voice of the guest overwhelms that of the host (idiom)
2 fig. a minor player upstages the main attraction
3 minor details obscure the main point
4 the sauce is better than the fish
打狗还得看主人
dǎ gǒu hái děi kàn zhǔ rén
1 lit. when one beats a dog, one must answer to its master (idiom)
2 fig. before punishing sb, one should consider how that would affect others associated with him
物各有主
wù gè yǒu zhǔ
1 everything has a rightful owner (idiom)
独立自主
dú lì zì zhǔ
1 independent and autonomous (idiom); self-determination
2 to act independently
3 to maintain control over one's own affairs
当家作主
dāng jiā zuò zhǔ
1 to be in charge in one's own house (idiom)
2 to be the master of one's own affairs
蒙在鼓里
méng zài gǔ lǐ
1 lit. kept inside a drum (idiom)
2 fig. completely in the dark
自作主张
zì zuò zhǔ zhāng
1 to think for oneself and act accordingly (idiom); to act on one's own initiative