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Posted on: Dinner with the Girlfriend's Parents
March 25, 2013, 06:05 AM

Odd.  When i met my chinese gf's (now my wife) parents for the first time, they were very nice actually (i.e. putting food on my plate, smiling, etc).  They don't speak much english and so all questions actually came from her sister n husband, and brother n wife.  I would answer in mandarin (thanks chinesepod!) and they translated it to cantonese for the parents to understand.

Rewind to meeting other girlfriend's parents in high school boy was that rough.  I dated two taiwanese girls and a toisan girl in high school and none of the parents liked me.

I dated a korean girl in college and met her mom after graduation.  She didn't waste any time.  The mom asked:

-where did you go to school?
-where do you work?
-do you like what you do?
-what did your parents do as a career? 

The father just asked, actually, he just shoved korean bbq and soju at me and wanted to make sure i had enough to eat!

Posted on: Asking for a Raise
April 18, 2012, 08:04 PM


Posted on: Asking for a Raise
April 11, 2012, 05:58 AM

The boss uses 討論instead of 商聯. Does that mean his conversation with HR will be a little half-hearted?  That is, he doesn't plan to fight that hard for 小黑and加薪給他?

Posted on: Warm Winter Clothes
December 27, 2011, 07:21 AM

I just have one question about this lesson, who picked the music?

Posted on: Lao Wang's Office 11: Wang in the Doghouse
December 21, 2011, 06:30 AM

This was probably the best acting I've heard in all lessons so far!  So believable!

Posted on: Meeting the Girlfriend's Parents
September 15, 2011, 06:58 AM

Thank you for the perspective. The big C word scares many guys away. Well similar to what you said in the lesson, being on the same page certainly helps.

As for Xiao Jiang, perhaps an answer that would have worked more in his favor could have been something along these lines "I'm thinking about a home in Shanghai. But before I do, I wanted to get Xiao Min's opinion". I guess the implied assumption here comes from John's remark about meeting her parents and her expectations of marriage.

I've dated chinese before and met their parents as well. I must say this dialogue is quite true of chinese parents.

Posted on: Meeting the Girlfriend's Parents
September 14, 2011, 06:40 AM

我很喜歡那個對話。Poor Xiao Jiang, 在美國我認識有的中國很聰明的男人。不過他們的女朋友的爸媽不喜歡他們因為那個男人沒有她們有錢。那個男人還有很好的工作。

Interesting now in the states, from what i see and hear there appears to be a change of psychology in that owning a home is now a burden.  Think about it, you meet a guy/gal and that person has a 30 year monkey on their back.  You're stuck there, and what if you lose your job, or your job moves somewhere else?  You can sell the house (hopefully you can sell it for more than the loan balance) or rent it out.

It seems has though the criteria has shifted more towards stability and mobility.

我喜歡Xiao Jiang,他好像 like he's got a good head on his shoulders.  Xiao min,你應該結婚他。你們來了美國,愛比較重要!

Posted on: It's cold, wear more clothes!
January 17, 2011, 07:53 AM

Wow, what a romantic lesson!  With a classic song to boot!  Question is, who at CPod is old enough to remember "Close to You" by the Carpenters?

Posted on: Chinatown Diary
January 13, 2011, 05:36 AM

I would agree that most people, stores, etc, in San Francisco and Oakland Chinatown speak Cantonese.  I have met some that speak Mandarin but as someone mentioned, it's like we're both speaking a second language.  I love how some of the Oakland & SF Chinatown restaurants are open to the early morning hours.  Cheap and great tasting food!  Though not the healthiest food, but who's counting calories after a few drinks huh?

The NYC Chinatown was so crowded.  Vancouver Chinatown was so clean.

I spent Chinese New Year in Los Angeles Chinatown a few years ago.  That was a ton of fun.  It was like a big block party, live bands, entertainment, music, bars, karaoke, just walking around enjoying the night.

Posted on: Saying Goodbye at the Airport
December 15, 2010, 04:32 AM

What a sad lesson!  CPod could make a Korean Soap Opera from this lesson.  The hero and heroine could be John and Jenny and the villain could be Jenny's jealous roommate who happens to be a long lost cousin (in episode 20 of course)!